Something that makes my mind constantly whir…Is the question “What exactly is failure?!”
So much so that I had to write a blog post on it!
Is it when we actually fail at something or is it when we definitely believe we will fail and hence do not even try our hands at that something…
Life is so full of uncertainties…
You plan one thing… But you land up with quite another!
Suddenly you get so scared of failure,
And you are so completely sure that you WILL fall short…
That you fail to even give it a worthwhile shot…
It gets ingrained. You start to compartmentalize your abilities and your capabilities.
You limit yourself, till you finally land up destroying your own spirit!
And that is true failure.
Not Actual Failure… But that Fear of Failure…
Not us when we fail it… But when we are so successful in our comfort zones that we never even try to step out and nail it!
And even after nailing it, we still aren’t sure if we have made the right life choices or the wrong ones!!!
Something that rings so true…
Being a topper in school and college actually works against you!
In our cushioned environs, we fail to deal with failure.
And our positive and protective bubbles don’t let us learn life’s true nature.
Because life is a lot about failure!!
And I am not talking of only examinations here.
Not doing well in academics is considered as failure.
Not being cool and accepted in school is considered as failure.
Not settling down is considered as failure.
Not having kids is considered as failure.
Not making enough money is considered as failure.
Getting divorced is considered as failure.
Even quitting a job that you hate is considered as failure.
Not partying or holidaying enough is also failure…
Hell, even getting fat or growing old is failure!!!!
We keep ourselves running like crazy hamsters on a spinning wheel,
Non-stop just to prevent all this failure from catching up on our life’s reel!!
How much this failure weighs us down and what the hell it is all about…
Is something that will take us all of our lives to figure out!
The best advice I could maybe give (even to myself)-
Things rarely go according to plan, but that is totally Okay!! That is life for us. We need it to grow and to become better people.
We need to Aim & Fire… If not this, then that.
To never ever tire.
Nothing is the end of this world.
We are but a minuscule part of a very small pale blue dot of Our Universe. So we need to keep things in perspective and at a long-range!
There were a zillion human beings before us..
And there will still be a gazillion of them after us..
Our days are long but our years are very very short.
We need to take a deep breath.
Pace ourselves out.
Not pressure ourselves, our families and God.
In the bigger frame of things, everything has a habit of falling into place. We just need to be patient!!
After all failure & success are just mere markers of our life’s journey.
One does not have any importance without the other…
What is most important is that we are LIVING the journey!!
“The race is long and in the end, it’s only with yourself”-
Baz Luhrman- Sunscreen Graduation Song. (My most favourite life advice song of alllll times!)